Why you should not teach and train your child the way you want?

So you think you have an adolescent child who you have difficulty motivating him/her to do the things you want him/her to do. Keep reading. This is how you can do it......

As a parent, you probably have enough difficult time communicating with your children, not to mention expecting them to do the things you want them to do. Well, to be able to communicate well is definitely the most important thing between 2 persons in any relationship. However, whether parents should expect their children to do what they want them to is not necessarily the best or ideal thing to do. The reason is obvious if you understand the following......

Gem stone beneath coarse rock

Nature works in such a way that every child can be viewed as a gem stone with a unique shape and structure hidden inside the coarse rocks when they are born. Each child could take the shape of a mouse, a chicken, a dragon, a rabbit...etc. A parent is like a sculptor who was assigned the task of uncovering this gem stone and bring its original glory to the highest in whatever way they see fit.

By now, you probably realise that a parent is not the owner of his/her child but rather a steward sculptor who has the duty of bringing up the child in the best way that is meant to be..

"Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it"

So if any parent intends to carve a beautiful mouse-shaped gem stone into a dragon, he is doomed to fail because that is against the original shape and structure of this gem stone and the outcome is a sculpture that neither looks like a dragon nor resembles a mouse. If that happens, the sculptor is devastated with frustration and the gem stone becomes a piece of worthless junk. (There are plenty of examples in which bright children are forced to enter medical school to fulfill their parent's dream that subsequently turned out to be a disaster with the children dropping out from medical school because they have no interest in Medicine.) Now back to our story with the sculptor, so the only way to do it is for the sculptor to carve the coarse rock according the shape and structure of a beautiful mouse. How does a sculptor know what kind of gem stone lies beneath the coarse rock? In other words, how does a parent know what kind of uncovered potential his/her child possess? ......To be continued........